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What is the Biggest Issue Facing Crossdressers Today?
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02-27-2012, 12:02 AM
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What is the Biggest Issue Facing Crossdressers Today?Hey girls,
I'm curious to know what you think is the most important or difficult issue facing crossdressers these days. Perhaps your answer is based upon a personal issue. For me, it is the sensationalism that rages over our use of the rest room when out in public. I find the arguments against us old fashioned and biased. I'd love to hear your thoughts regarding the issues we face today. Hugs, Sally 
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02-27-2012, 12:14 AM
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Re: What is the Biggest Issue Facing Crossdressers Today?Whilst I would be the first to say that things have improved considerably over the last 30 years the biggest issue then as now is keeping a job that is sensitive to the fact that you are a crossdresser. In many cases its fine today to transition in the workplace BUT if you don't want to do this there is NOT the same willingness to accept your right to being an occasional crossdresser.
It always strikes me as somewhat odd that generally society is unconcerned about the LGB part of the LGBT rainbow alliance but being T is still only barely accepted and certainly not so totally ignored as the other labels. For all of the above it is one of the main reasons why I have chosen to be self-employed and even built up some substantial businesses where I have insisted on the right of my employees to live their lives as they see fit providing they are not endangering other people . Melissa xx
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02-27-2012, 12:29 AM
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Re: What is the Biggest Issue Facing Crossdressers Today? By the Grace of God I am what I am. (I Cor. 15:10)
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02-27-2012, 12:39 AM
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Re: What is the Biggest Issue Facing Crossdressers Today? Acceptance and any kind of CD job in a non-bar setting. ;-)
"  I FINALLY LIKE MYSELF. AT LAST, I LIKE MYSELF."
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02-27-2012, 01:29 AM
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Re: What is the Biggest Issue Facing Crossdressers Today? Slice it up any way you can, sugar coating won't help it.
The general acceptance of society is always the issue. Cass .GIF "left wink") Serenity through Femininity .GIF "right wink") .GIF "Rose blooming") Life is not about waiting out the storm, it's about learning to dance in the rain.
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02-27-2012, 03:30 AM
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Re: What is the Biggest Issue Facing Crossdressers Today? I would have to say finding love! How many of us are accepted by those around us? How many have the courage to come out to family or friends? How many have wives or significant others? I can live without the World accepting me but I cannot live without sharing this wonderful gift with at least one person that loves me!!!
Hugs, Jazmine “Something inside you emerges….an innate, indwelling peace, stillness, aliveness. It is the unconditioned, who you are in your essence. It is what you had been looking for in the love object. It is yourself.” - Eckhart Tolle “Find the love you seek, by first finding the love within yourself. Learn to rest in that place within you that is your true home.” - Sri Sri Ravi Shankar “You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.” - Wayne Dyer
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02-27-2012, 03:35 AM
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02-27-2012, 06:59 AM
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Re: What is the Biggest Issue Facing Crossdressers Today? Would it make any difference as to wether your a dresser or trans i dont fit ether anyway. yet with out asking the many people i know numbered in the 1000's you would have to ask them. & these people are from all walks of life, & yes i really do meet many , of the some 3000 people who have seen myself many many times, i wonder what they think of me.. as to family Thats Jos our three grown up adults & 9 grand kids, then theres thier friends, those iv worked with & business 's that i know, shop people, okay you get my point, they have over the years have known me as noel & as noeleena, tho my names dont make much difference really, because i do use both & yea its no big deal. Info, i have received from some friends & this is not a brag session just becuse i have done what i have iv paved the way for others to be seen to come out tho many no dought would blend in & hardly any one would see them as different, gives those the confidence to get out & mix with other people, What concerns do i see for my self,,,,,, none ,,,, For others the loo's, buying clothes in shops because many are afried to talk because of thier voice, & may be bars & the like, Of cause being afraied to tell thier own familys & work related , Funny as when i first went to a shop i had been going to & with Jos getting clothes for her over 16 years, i said to the two women i was a dresser, & would be back later on byeing clothes after that i told then i was a transfemale & explained that to them & they told me of another dresser, who i knew, After that i said next time you see me will be as a woman. or dressed like one, In the context of i am a woman / female from birth, I never used the words Interesexed, as i knew there was not point & it did not matter. The pther point is i do know a lot of people & can call on them & can get them to work with me , as a say make up for a group of guys who'd like a session to learn how to. Or a shoping afternoon , you see this is my difference because im accepted, i can do things that others find hard & to get some to go with me would be apart from so much fun , It would so much help them to over come thier blocks or hills they are trying to climb . Going to a resterant or food place I know one friend i was helping for a year spent time with me at a big hotel & she was nervios as , & i said just enjoy your self & dont think about other people tho i talked with them she could not, . I dont know if this is of much help or i dont know just me i spos being a jackass, any ways, what i try to do is put people at ease wether dressers or others & new people i talk to , ..really its about being a P R person. & being a woman helps,,,,,,,, ...noeleena...
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02-27-2012, 07:05 AM
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Re: What is the Biggest Issue Facing Crossdressers Today? Another thing that came to mind is learning the layers of skills in order to be more feminine. For the most part, the providers of that information Moms, sisters, gf's, and shops that are designed for women are generally off limits.
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02-27-2012, 08:56 AM
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Re: What is the Biggest Issue Facing Crossdressers Today? Why be happy when you can be normal!
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02-27-2012, 09:12 AM
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Re: What is the Biggest Issue Facing Crossdressers Today? Acceptance is still a big issue I think, also there is still a general lack of understanding as to the reasoning behing being TG or even just the need/want to crossdress.
Drag shows etc have not been kind in protraying a stereotype.
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02-27-2012, 09:18 AM
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Re: What is the Biggest Issue Facing Crossdressers Today? I agree with posts #1-4, but I'm wary about statements like: The general acceptance of society is always the issue.
It's not that I disagree, but once you start thinking "It's me versus the whole of society" then there's only a small step to despair. I'd rather say, let's start from where we are - what can I personally do to put things right? After all, it's not all the restaurants in town that matter, just the one where I want to eat. Do I really know I wouldn't be accepted? Have I ever tried? I did this the other day - arranged to meet somebody in a restaurant where I go very occasionally and I thought I should be OK. In the end I realised the restaurant owners knew all about me and treated me like an honoured guest. So where was the big deal, the big fear? In my head. And so another one bites the dust...
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02-27-2012, 01:43 PM
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Re: What is the Biggest Issue Facing Crossdressers Today? And while i agree with you Katie, it should be a given that we as a community need to do our part to effect change.
I wasn't trying to say that we should just have total acceptance handed to us on a golden platter. That still does not make the basic fact invalid. One of the most frustrating things that we can face is when we try to educate and we get shut down or ignored. Last edited by Cassandra Lynn : 02-28-2012 at 01:37 AM.
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02-27-2012, 08:38 PM
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Re: What is the Biggest Issue Facing Crossdressers Today? Since last Oct my wife of 30 years and children (21, 25) now know. Wife understands and is now in the accepting/nonaccepting position. Have got her several good books to read. I am dressed daily in jeans, blouses/shirts, bra, underwear and shoes/boots. We are communicating daily about how it feels, my feelings, her feelings etc. Everything is on the table nothing is closed subject. She teases me by snapping the bra straps. Told her I will not dress fully for her until she asks and is ready for it. Have told one of my 4 younger sisters (50) who I knew would be accepting. She is OK with it. I was hoping she would be support for my wife. My kids are accepting, daughter borrowed some clothes and shoes.
I have not been out fully dressed since last Oct but when I do I have no problems using the washroom I don't spend a lot of time in it, use it and get out quick. In the last 50 years I have been directly read twice that I know of and probably indirectly many times. I don't care as it is their problem not mine. I am comfortable with me, that is what matters. I have been in stores, malls, restraunts etc and never have a problem. Except for voice I pass very well and even if one doesn't; show confidence and go for it. I am now 60, life is short so enjoy doing what makes you happy. I wanted to tell my wife many time over the last 30 years but did not have the courage, in hind site I wish I had done it as the guilt within me is now gone, I am more content and my mood swings are gone. My wife has told me she wishes I told her a long time ago as my mood swings were hard to live with and she always thought something like this was going on with me. As far as telling ones spouse follow some of the advice in this site and other books such as my husband betty, coping with crossdressing etc. Do not break it to her dressed. Allow her time to asimulate it all do not rush or push her. She has to work through her emotions and guilt that she has done something wrong which is not the case. It took you time give her time.
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02-28-2012, 12:02 AM
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Re: What is the Biggest Issue Facing Crossdressers Today? Seriously: the public acceptance issue.
Humorously: The limited selection in shoe styles available in size 13. Barbara Jean, Blonde in Training. If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything.
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02-28-2012, 03:33 AM
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Re: What is the Biggest Issue Facing Crossdressers Today? In, "Excalibur", Arthur asks Merlin what the greatest quality of knighthood is. Merlin's answer, after being corner to be straightforward, is, "Truth. That's it. Yes. It must be truth, above all. When a man lies, he murders some part of the world."
I find so much about human behaviour is feared, hated and destroyed simply because its true nature is not commonly comprehended and a lie is substituted for truth. When I go off on one of my diatribes, I am not stating an opinion so much as tasting an idea, chewing at it to get the flavour of some kernel of truth, some degree of enlightenment. That the way one dresses should be limited by one's sex is untrue. That if one dresses a certain way one must be mentally unstable is untrue. That cross-dressing is a crime is untrue. And so on. The greatest impediment is a lack of knowledge of the truth, not only on the part of a general public but on the part of people who are supposed to know these things. That includes us sometimes for if we cannot understand, how can we explain? The biggest issue is to clearly see the truth, speak the truth and demonstrate the truth to be true. It is also the most difficult as you cannot argue out of people a prejudice that was not argued into them in the first place. Minerva Last edited by Minerva Morgan : 02-29-2012 at 07:31 PM.
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02-28-2012, 03:39 PM
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Re: What is the Biggest Issue Facing Crossdressers Today? i do not personally care one way or another what the world thinks about crossdressers/transexuals misc etc ! in fact i love messing with the minds of the narrow minded !
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02-29-2012, 01:40 AM
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Re: What is the Biggest Issue Facing Crossdressers Today? I have to go with the general theme here of acceptance.
We have to hide who we are and when we do some of the things that help us feel/look better when dressed (like longer hair, growing your nails, piercing your ears, good grooming) they look at you as if you are a freak and make rude comments. 
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02-29-2012, 04:20 AM
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Re: What is the Biggest Issue Facing Crossdressers Today? I think the issue that most affects us cuts across all groups and cultures. It is the single minded refusal of all mankind to live according to the golden rule. Do unto others as you would have done to you. There is not a single injustice, intolerance or intervention that cannot be laid bare at the feet of that one.
That is an issue of respect rather than acceptance. I cannot force acceptance, but I can require respect. Renée From the twisted musings of Renée Theresa Davidson, she from whom no thread is safe. .gif "flirting")
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02-29-2012, 04:49 AM
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Re: What is the Biggest Issue Facing Crossdressers Today? Although that shoe issue is a close second. Hugs, Drea Lots to learn, lots to love, lots to live
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