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02-02-2010, 07:00 AM
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Going OutJanet my girl friend is very keen for us to go out as a couple, initially just for a drive in the car once the bad weather is over.
I have my doubts as to the sense of this. I doubt very much if I could pass and am frightened of being embarresed. Except for the one time I visited Stephanie at her cottage I have never been out and even then I drove there in drab and changed when I got there. Janet has given me lots of encouragement over the past few months but I am still wary of going out in public even if its in a car. I know you will all think I am stupid but I cannot change how I feel. Janet has been a brick she really has but I think she is starting to loose patience with me, but I just don’t feel the need to go out. Plain and simple do you think I am being selfish in my attitude. As always I will bow to the majority in accordance to the excellent advice give me before. Georgina 
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02-02-2010, 07:48 AM
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Re: Going Out thats a diamond of a girl you have there..and she seems to think you pass and so do i from your photos..im sorry i cant give you any advice on going out as the most i have done is short walks at nite..but seriously once you start its such a high..but really its down to you if you feel that inside is enough then thats your call..you will get far better advice from some of the other girls on this forum about going out some of them are real veterans and have given me so much encouragement..i wish you luck if you do and ofcourse ill want to know how it went..
 DENIAL IS MORE THAN A RIVER IN EGYPT...
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02-02-2010, 08:10 AM
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Re: Going Out Hi Georgina, your GF sounds like a solid gold lady and clearly has the intention of you BOTH going out as a couple.
Going out is 10% dressing and 90% attitude. No matter how GOOD you look, the wrong attitude will give you away in an instant. On the other hand, even in grunge, with the RIGHT attitude, nobody will notice. Life is too short for hesitation Georgina, embrace the moment and Janet and go with it. Think like a girl, behave like a girl, talk like a girl. With those 3 attitude embracers, even in drab, you'll be seen as a GIRL..
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02-02-2010, 10:49 AM
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Re: Going Out What's right for you is right for you, Georgina. It just may not be your time to go out, yet, if ever. And that's okay!
But if you have been out (even a little ... like your visit with Steph) you might have an inkling of the excitement of those first trips. A little terror mixed with a lot of exhiliration. The majority is not always right, hun..( as evidenced by American politcs of the last decade... LOL!) But you can bet that the vast majority here would cetainly love to have a gf like your Janet. Do you trust her? Does she love you? Then you can be sure that she wouldn't do anything to embarass or hurt you. In fact, it almost sounds like she can't wait to share in an outside life with Georgina! She obviously sees you as special and worth it. Now you've just gotta see yourself that way! Either way,have fun!  Diabolus fecit, ut id facerem! .gif "flirting")
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02-02-2010, 11:50 AM
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02-02-2010, 12:39 PM
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Re: Going Out I agree with Deja True and the rest for that matter
Janet would not do anything to embarrass you. I would trust her judgement Go for it Luv. I'd change places with you any day. Stephanie
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02-02-2010, 01:02 PM
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Re: Going OutIf I had your looks and a supportive GF, I would be out that door in a heartbeat. But we have to do what we are comfortable with and a pace that we can handle. Whatever you decide just make sure you are comfortable with your decision. .GIF "Rose blooming") 
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02-02-2010, 01:16 PM
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Re: Going Out The surrounding area is well used to seeing us lot out and about. Bunny .gif "bunny") The Pallet SlayerOut and about.   
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02-02-2010, 01:56 PM
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Re: Going Out Hi Georgina, personally I don't think you should do anything your not comfortable with or ready for.
Remember this is meant to be fun. Your not being selfish, it's your right to decide how far you want to go. I say go if and when your ready. Only do what your comfortable with, I know lots that would want to be in your shoes, but you must clearly understand what your going to do and where your going to do it. Set your boundaries and make sure your completely comfortable about it. Just my opinion, best wishes.
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02-02-2010, 02:09 PM
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Re: Going Out Well Georginah, first of all, I think you pass very well, at least by looks of your avitar. As far as going out, I think you need to do what you feel is best. But at the same time I believe your g/f wants to share in your new persona. I would trust her. Going for a drive is probably the best way to acclumate yourself to going out. Little steps may lead you to feel a bit more comfortable. One way to look at it is later on your g/f may lose interrest in helping you. I'm sure it's just her way to feel closer to you. Some girls do enjoy having a best guy/girlfriend. You are so lucky. But, you have to do what you feel is best for you. But also keep open the communications between you and your g/f. Don't let that door close.
Hugs, Diana
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02-02-2010, 03:27 PM
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02-02-2010, 03:49 PM
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Re: Going Out I wonder if you believe Gemma. What she says is so true. Going out in a car is really like going out. Kicks, highs and the lot.
Now there is an important difference in going in a car and going on a pavement. That is "no one really looks at people in a car for very long". Not even at traffic lights. When they do look at people in a car, they cannot see the detail. Certainly not the walk and all the rest of it. It feels like going out and it really is going out. In anonimity. If you want to then do it. You should. ~Samm ... " Sam-antha...I feel like I am hearing her through fractured glass - She makes sense if you kind of squint ".  http://www.flickr.com/photos/sam-antha/ Last edited by Sam-antha : 02-02-2010 at 05:13 PM.
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02-02-2010, 04:55 PM
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Re: Going Out Its your life and decision, do what your heart tells you. But I have to say that my first drive out while dress was a sensation I'll never forget. Its one of the easiest things to do. My personal opinion is do it. If it becomes too big of a step you'll know where you fit in as a CD.
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02-02-2010, 05:34 PM
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Georginah, I assure you, and I think I can speak for all of the members here, no one thinks you are stupid or being an idiot. Actions may be right or wrong, but feelings are never wrong, and shouldnt be dismissed outright. I keep wondering if it helps or hurts to keep reiterating about the thrill and/or sensation of going out. While true for the majority of us, for some it may be the same feeling of terror or anxiety similar to stagefright or fear of heights, etc. Regardless of whether the feeling is rational or not, there is no point in pushing. To that end, I say its not being selfish choosing to keep to yourself from anyone besides you girlfriend, which you already have dealt with (and quite admirably I might say). I think that if you tell Janet your true feelings she will understand. Tell her she was important enough to you to share this part of your life, but at the same time its still a very private and personal thing that you dont wish to share with anyone else. In other words, she above all else, has been included in your personal space because only she is important enough to do so. We all agree that in the flipside case, if the SO is uncomfortable with crossdressing that we shouldnt push... so why push in this case? I dont see a difference... "Against the grain should be a way of life, What’s worth the prize is always worth the fight. Every second counts ’cause there’s no second try, So live like you’ll never live it twice Don’t take the free ride in your own life"  Last edited by stacyB : 02-02-2010 at 05:44 PM.
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02-02-2010, 06:51 PM
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Re: Going Out Girl, you do not realize what a great situation you are in! If your avatar is any indication of how you look, you will have absolutely no problem being in a car. Virtually all of us have had these feelings of doubt, etc. However, most of us did not have a GF such as yours. Trust her! You won't be sorry.
Hugs, Carole Hill
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02-02-2010, 07:59 PM
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Re: Going Out You're certainly anything but stupid. Remember that dressing should be for you above all. It is great that Janet wants to go out with you. But remember to what you are comfortable with. You will have a lifetime together. Plenty of time to go out together when you are both comfortable with it.
Best wishes to you both Georgina. I think you two will have a great life together. You both seem honest and willing to talk about feelings. 
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02-02-2010, 08:19 PM
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Re: Going Out It seems to me that you are asking, or at least imply, two questions - should you and can you get away with it?
As for should you, you are the only person in the world that can make that call. Only you know if you have the want, need, and courage to do it. As for the implied question of can you get away with it - do you have a mirror? All I have to go on is your Avatar, but from judging by that you look awesome and shouldn't have any problems at all. Hugs from Texas, Kimberly Huddle http://www.myspace.com/kimberly_huddle http://flickr.com/photos/txkimberly http://www.youtube.com/user/TxKimberly
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02-02-2010, 08:48 PM
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Re: Going Out I'm in agreement with Kimberly. My girlfriend kept telling me that I could pass...at least as long as I don't open my mouth. Me, I'm not too sure that's the case, but at least I don't think that I look like a trainwreck.
 From your avatar you look great, but it's really up to you as to whether or not you want to go out. My girlfriend, like yours, took me for a drive the first time, stopped at a couple of places, parked in the front and she went in leaving me in the car. The first place I just KNEW that I was going to get some looks, and not the good kind, but I got a lot of glances, but no one pointed or seemed to pay any real attention to me. By the end of our drive I was feeling a lot better about myself. Then we started planning to go out somewhere...out of town and by some magic I found "the forum that shall not be mentioned" which in turn led me to Kimberly's HUGE myspace blog where I read until I just couldn't read anymore. Sorry Kimberly, but I never have made it all the way through. At any rate, on there I found an event called the Southern Comfort Conference (SCC) that was only a month down the road and mentioned it to Marsha in passing. Her reaction was a bit of a surprise, "Let's go!" So we did. I will tell you this, once you get out you'll likely discover two things. 1) It's addictive, which of course only leads to more money going to shoes, clothes.... 2) It's quite libertating. All of a sudden there's a whole new world out there that you can explore and be a part of, to interact in a new way with the world around you. I can't guarantee that you'll like it, but odds are that if you give it a try that you will. HELL YES, you're going to be nervous. I just started going out last September, maybe early August, and I'm still nervous when it's something new, somewhere that I find myself or a type of new place that I've never been before. I've got to admit that I've yet to go out by myself. Kimberly is MILES ahead of me on that one. Anway, that's my thoughts on the matter. Of course I know nothing about the attitudes of CDs where you live, but if I can do it in the south, the bible belt, then there's probably at least a few areas that are safe where you're at.
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02-02-2010, 08:49 PM
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Re: Going OutGeorginah, I would have never thought that I would leave my closet I am tall as a male and in heels I'm 6'5" I have no belief that I pass when the woman next to me is in another atmosphere. Still with a lot of encouragement from the girls here, I have gotten out. If Janet wants to go for a drive try going out at night or somewhere remote is possible. Good luck
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02-02-2010, 11:16 PM
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Re: Going Out Every now and then my wife brings up the idea of the two of us going out to someplace like Palm Springs or Vegas. I just can't stand the idea of all those creeps, thugs and weirdos looking at me like I'm the one who's a freak. Just the thought of it gives me the willies. I don't think its ever going to happen. I would never do anything I'm not comfortable doing. She's even talked about us going out with me en femme. She's nuts.
 Stevie The lady comes to the gate dressed in lavender and leather Looking North to the sea she finds the weather fine She hears the steeple bells ringing through the orchard All the way from town She watches seagulls fly Silver on the ocean stitching through the waves The edges of the sky --Judy Collins
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